By Grace Hui for Incentre
There are many people that we love in our lives and that we want to remain a part of our lives. However, the drama and density of everyday life may mean that it may be hard to maintain healthy boundaries with our family, friends or colleagues..
There are many ways to enforce and maintain healthy boundaries without negatively affecting or ending a relationship. Truly knowing ourselves and understanding our motivations and objectives are an important tenet in maintaining healthy boundaries.
In addition, cord cutting can be an effective and safe way to remove the unhealthy aspects of a relationship without necessarily ending the relationship. While a cord cutting may not directly end a relationship, it might well be that the removal of the fog that clouds a relationship could lead to that relationship coming to an eventual end, if it is in both your highest goods. This doesn’t have to be a scary thing. It is simply a shedding process on your own progression. By allowing yourself to progress, you are also facilitating the progress of the other.
Cord cutting can be viewed as a pruning process in a given relationship - whereby you cut away the parts of it that are dead or dry so that new shoots can grow. In other words, it is vital for healthy relationships that the old bits that no longer serve, are removed so that new and healthier parts can grow and blossom.
Another example would be that of a healthy shining diamond. In order for the diamond to be the valued commodity that it is, it has to be cut from a rough stone into a multi faceted one to catch the light, using specialised tools and knowledge.
Think of the emotional cord cutting practitioner as a person with the requisite tools and knowledge to cut away what might well be impeding your relationship or growth.
What is an energetic cord?
Every time you meet someone, an energetic cord forms between you. If you never see this person again, this cord will detach itself over time naturally as no energy is being exchanged between the two of you. However, a person that has a bigger impact on your life, be it a friend, a romantic partner, a work colleague or a family member, this person will have a stronger energetic cord with you. When we get close to people, our cords are strong and they may hold lots of attachments within them.
In our interactions with people, and in particular the closer relationships in our lives, we subconsciously develop emotional attachments with them. While a genuine connection requires the mutual sharing of energy with healthy boundaries, emotional attachments which affect the energetic health of the other by causing confusion, doubt or drama is not quite the same thing.
An emotional cord cutting removes these attachments and allows us to clearly understand how we truly feel in any situation - free from the influence of other people. It can help us to move away from toxic relationships and situations and create healthier patterns based on our own freedom of choice. Not clouded decisions made as a result of external factors but decisions based on what we truly want.
A common misconception of cord cutting
Sometimes people may be fearful of a cord cut because of a misconception that a cord cut means an ending of a particular relationship. Some may also misunderstand the concept of cord cutting, thinking that it is only for people that you dislike or no longer want in your life.
In reality, a cord cut can be used to remove the unhealthy emotional bonds in a relationship without ending a relationship. It can remove the drama of negative behavioural patterns we may have in that relationship and in fact, make that relationship far more positive. It can also help in your relationship with yourself. How much of yourself do you truly know or understand? What is yours and what is someone else's?
Having a healthy relationship with yourself will stand you in much better stead to navigate the world. After all, what is inside gets reflected outwards. As the Hermetics say: “As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul…”
Sometimes, that relationship may come to a natural conclusion because it no longer serves your highest good and, if that happens, we have to trust the light as it does its work for our highest good! Are we afraid of a relationship coming to a conclusion because we are attached to it or because it is actually still serving us in our highest good?
In other words, a cord cutting will not end the relationship between two people, but only the negative aspects of that relationship. However, if the relationship has become so toxic, then it may well be that the relationship comes to a natural conclusion and that is not a bad thing. We have to trust the process.
A cord cut can also be used to remove negativity, fear or attachments to a particular event - not just a person. For example, if one has had an unpleasant experience that he or she is unable to shake off or release, a cord cutting from that particular event might be helpful.
What is a cord cut?
In the Hermetic mystery school tradition, cord cutting is a simple but powerful process where all negative energies are reversed, cleared, and sent back to where they came from, to be used in accordance to the light.
Done in a lineage-based way using a method that has been used, unchanged for thousands of years, the practitioner will clear away psychic and mental blocks, to bring you back to centre, to ground you and anchor you.
Clearing away the interference from other people’s negative thoughts and projections towards us is appropriate for anyone, and is something we recommend everyone to consider receiving on a periodic basis.
Think of our energetic health like a yearly car service. If we get our automobiles checked every year by law, why shouldn’t we also maintain our own energetic health regularly?
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You are welcome to book your Cord Cutting session below. Or contact us at contact@incentrelondon.com to schedule your consultation.
During the introductory consultation, we will delve into your unique circumstances and past experiences to understand your situation better and discuss options for you.
You can then also receive a cord cutting and energy clearing in the second part of the session. This transformative process helps release negative emotional attachments to past experiences and empowers you to move forward.
Includes: cord cutting + personal consultation
Format: Private session
Exchange: 120£, 60mins session
Location: INCENTRE London, 95 Lancaster Gate, W2 3NW
