By Grace Hui for Incentre
We have all at some point in our lives suffered some form of pain or trauma. We have also heard that in order to push past the wounds, we have to somehow forgive and forget. While that message contains some truth, it has become somewhat confused.
Oftentimes, hurts are inflicted on us and it is not our fault. We may be victims of circumstances or someone else’s actions. However, how we choose to navigate our way out of that quagmire is our responsibility.
Being a victim is temporary while being in victimhood is a permanent narrative that is created.
One can be a victim of something without falling into victimhood. There is a difference.
Sometimes, after we fall victim to something, we become attached to the suffering that the event has caused, not realising that it is something we have the power and indeed the responsibility to shift.
This is not to say that we bury the pain or repress it. In fact, we don’t have to forget that the event happened at all. It’s simply the realisation that while pain is inevitable, suffering is not!
Pain might be the direct result of the event that caused us to hurt. If we allow it to move through us, it does pass. However, if we choose to let it define us, it becomes our all-consuming narrative. So much so that we carry the burden of endless suffering, forgetting that we have the power to shift this!
To transcend, we do not have to forget, we only have to realise that within each of us, we have the power to shift.
Nothing is immutable!
Of course, when one is clouded in hurt, it is much easier said than done. Often, we may not even realise that we are holding ourselves in victimhood.
This is why the power of initiation and the tools to live an “empowered” life are so important and helpful. Especially in these times where opinions are often conflated with fact and there is a tendency to create and be addicted subconsciously to the drama created by the collective.
Do you want to have the power to shift out negative energy and toxic behavioural patterns?
Do you want to be empowered to discern between victim and victimhood?
The tools to work with and shift negative energy patterns are available to all who wish to learn. I will be hosting an introductory talk on this on 16 June at 630 pm at Incentre, West London where I will be happy to answer any questions you have.
I would also be giving a brief overview of the “Empower Thyself” class which is a 2-day class where you will begin your journey of mastery. Mastery over events that are seemingly out of your control and mastery over the negative thought and emotional patterns that come with the status of victimhood.
I look forward to meeting with you and sharing my own journey with you while supporting you on yours.
You can register here. We will be collecting £5 at the door for this event for Charity, in support of The Dog Bus, a Dog Rescue and an Emergency transport service for our canine friends.
